How to fight with your significant other "the right way"
Most times when we argue, we are ultimately hoping to be understood at the very least. Ideally, we'll be agreed with. Arguing can become a lot less stressful and heated when we can come to terms with the fact that we might not be understood and likely won't be agreed with. The point of the argument, then, becomes one of sharing ideas, rather than forcing them. Spend your energy working on softening what you might be saying, de-escalating yourself, coming to understanding and compromise, and finally making sure you are taking measures to take care of yourself, your partner, and your relationship when all is said and done.